I Choose Goals. I Choose to Succeed.
[ˌrezəˈlo͞oSH(ə)n] NOUN: a firm decision to do or not to do something.
So, it's here. 2021. We made it!...or did we? Sure the calendar has changed but that doesn't mean everything is different. We're basically where we were just a few months ago, with a slight bit of hope on the horizon. I'm not being negative. I look at 2020 as the year that taught us that we CAN show up for hard times and get through them, and maybe even come out stronger on the other end. We can create deeper connections to friends and family, and to what truly matters in life. And what I know to be true is that we are ALL more capable of handling extremely difficult situations than we ever thought we could be.
Yes, it's a new year, but let's go into 2021 with our eyes and our minds open.
How many of you made resolutions for 2021? If you raised your hand, let's open your mind to thinking of them differently. The change from an old to a new year should be a time of reflection and growth, not a time to make "firm decisions" to do or not do certain things. When you make a resolution to eat healthier or stop spending so much money or focusing more on work, you could be setting yourself up to fail. Why? Because you're basically admitting that you've made bad decisions when it comes to these things in the past, or you haven't yet been capable of succeeding in these areas in the past. You're stating that these things are going to CHANGE, this time for real. But what happens when they don't? What happens when you can't follow through? You feel defeated, stupid, embarrassed, and the cycle starts all over again. And you head into the next year with the same resolution. Of course this doesn't hold true for everyone but if this is ringing true to you, keep reading.
Don't think of changing yourself for the year. First, because you're perfect how you are (flaws and all). And, second, it's better to think of becoming a better version of your already wonderful self (we could all use a few tweaks!). So, instead of thinking in terms of firm decisions to STOP doing something, try using goals instead. Goal [ɡōl] NOUN: the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result. Doesn't that just sound better?
Come up with 1 or 2 simple goals for the year (keep it small because if/when you achieve goals 1&2, you can add more) and you'll be set you up for success. Why? Because goals are an attempt, they're an effort to change something in your life for the better; not a promise. It's not something that will magically happen, it's something you're working hard to make happen. And goals are amazing because you get to put concrete action plans behind them. Follow your action plans to help reach your goals, taking baby steps toward making your goals a reality, and they will happen for you.
Here's an example. My GOAL for the year is to lose weight. Great. Why this goal, this year? "Because I'm tired of feeling controlled by food, and I want to look and feel better inside and out. I want to be heathier". That's your motivation.
Now, how are you going to lose the weight? Come up with steps:
Step 1: I'll add more exercise to my routine.
Step 2: I'll cut sugar out of my diet.
Step 3: I'll drink more water and eat more vegetables.
Step 4: I'll find someone to check in with and help hold me accountable (could be a health coach, a nutritionist, a friend, a partner, a sibling, and so on).
You add these small but manageable steps to your life and slowly chip away at the goal. If it takes all year, who cares?! You'll get there if you stick to it, are intentional in your actions, and remember your motivation.
More to come on motivation later this month. I think we'll all need a lot of it in 2021 :)
Stay well always,